“I hired a gentleman to do some legal work for me . I speak to him once a month and see him approximately once a month. For some reason I cant stop thinking of him. At times I thought the feelings were mutual and other times he can be very distant. I would like to know if he has any interest in me or not so I can move on. Thanks, Kristen”
Thanks for writing in, Kristen. In astrology when we compare the charts of two individuals in a relationship it’s called synastry. This technique basically overlays one chart on top of the other to see how the planets interact with one another. However, before counseling two people I much prefer to deal with them individually. Each person will bring his or her own personal agenda into a relationship and it’s better to understand that context before analyzing two people together.
Before we look at your chart there are two things I need to address. When you emailed me your question you included the birhtday of the gentleman in question. First, to cast an accurate natal chart the time of birth and the location are both necessary. Now, just having the birth date will give us a lot of information, like the Sun sign, the sign of most of the planets, and most of the aspects. Where it becomes problematic is that we can’t determine the houses or ascendent; and it’s possible that the Moon or another planet may have changed signs sometime during that day.
The second issue I need to address is one of ethics. As a professional astrologer I’m not at liberty to read someone’s chart without their permission. It’s very common in relationships for one person to want to know what’s happening with a partner, and the best way to handle that is to simply ask the other person. This alleviates any messy ethical issues and we can verify the birth information so that an accurate chart can be cast.
Kristen’s Relationship Astrology
So onto Kristen’s chart! (Kristen-Natal-Chart) As we can see from her natal chart Kristen is an Aries- dynamic, quick, and independent. To see how the energy of the chart balances out I count the number of planets in each element (fire, earth, air, and water) and the number of planets in each modality (cardinal, fixed, and mutable). Kristen has four planets in fire signs and four planets in cardinal signs. This describes someone who is very active, likes a challenge, and moves into new situations easily (but without a lot of forethought).
Kristen’s Gemini ascendent (or rising sign) shows that she approaches new situations with a sense of curiosity. That, combined with her Libra Moon, imbue Kristen with a frienly and outgoing personality. Gemin and Libra are both air signs, so there’s a need to communicate and connect with others. Saturn, the planet of structure and discipline, is in Aquarius, another air sign, right on Kristen’s midheaven (the top of the chart). Kristen wants to be seen by others as responsible, authoratative, with strong opinions. This triad of air signs connecting her rising sign, Moon, and Saturn give her a good memory, skillful communications, and the ability to fix her mind on something and hold tight!
Kristen has Venus, the planet of relating, across the chart from Pluto, planet of intensity and transformation. Kristen doesn’t take love lightly. If it’s not intense and potentially life-changing then she doesn’t want to bother. We can hear this echoed in the lyrics of Janis Joplin, who also had Venus opposing Pluto, when she sang, “…take another little piece of my heart…” Kristen’s Venus is also reaching out to Neptune in an harmonious way. Neptune is idyllic. This Venus/Neptune combination therefore gives love that magical, storybook feel. These two different needs of her Venus- one of intense, almost fated connection and one of of idealizing love could potentially be difficult to find in a mere mortal.
The last thing I’ll address in Kristen’s chart is Sagittarius on the descendent. In astrology the desecendent is the “3 o’clock” position on the chart wheel- directly opposite of the rising sign. The descendent describes those traits we project onto a partner. Kristen is probably attracted to men who seem well-educated, well-traveled, and who seem to offer her a way of broadening her horizons (all qualities of Sagittarius). In relationships she wants to be the student (Gemini rising) who can sit at the feet of a teacher (Sagittarius).
Returning to Kristen’s question, we see some interesting choice of words. The man in question did some “legal work” for her. Sagittarius rules systems like the law and religion. He obviously has an advanced degree and is probably very knowledgable. Kristen also “can’t stop thinking about him,” again, the Venus-Pluto combination can become obssessed with the object of affection. And her Aries Sun views life and situations as challenges to be fought and won (Aries is the hero/warrior). And for some reason her not knowing his feelings or status is keeping her in a place where she feels stuck (“…so that I can move on”). The air planets we talked about needs information and objective facts. Without those facts it’s hard for Kristen to discern the situation.
Kristen, my advice for you is to calm your mind and try to get in touch with your inner intuition. What is your gut telling you? Men are not hard to read; there are no hidden agendas or shifting emotions to discern with us. Secondly, I’d want to know if this is someone you think is worth pursuing in a relationship, or is there another, deeper reason for your strong attraction to him (Venus-Pluto)? Is the attraction based on a fantasy or reality (Venus-Neptune)? And lastly, what sort of signals are you giving off to him? With Saturn in Aquarius on your midheaven (appearing very “in control”) are you sure he can interpret how you’re feeling on the inside? Too much air can rationalize and disconnect us from our feelings. Remember, feelings need to be shown and not just discussed.
Good luck Kristen, and do keep us posted on how things turn out!
